Understanding Your Core Values
Life is full things that we invest ourselves in. These investments could be made through time, money, emotions. It is important to understand what our personal values are and make sure that we are rating and applying our core values accordingly.
Before I get too far into this, I want to make sure that I convey core values to provide you guys with where I’m coming from a bit. My core values are listed below.
1. The God of my understanding. Everyone has their own belief system, so if you’re going to model your core value system then insert the God of your understanding here. Mine is God and Jesus and all of that stuff - which I will not go into here. I need this core value my top priority. The Bible can tell you why.
2. Family. My family is very important to me. These are the people that I will put above all worldly things - friends, money, hobbies, everything. We did not choose who our family members are, but we were put in this situation for some reason, so let’s roll with it. I would do anything for my wife and children first, then I would be there for my mother and father, brother and sister. I’ve been blessed with a very tight knit family. It’s been trying at times, but we’ll make it through just fine. This is also where I’d include all of the extended family, too, but I wanted to make sure the immediate people in my life were specifically mentioned which allows me identify the most important focus in this category.
3. Friends. Friends are a very important part of life and valuable assets to our personal growth. They are people we can turn to when we need to vent about family, life, career. They are also the people who we can learn to confide in and also have fun with. Maybe these people even help us get into trouble once in awhile. No matter what building a solid support system is critical to success in life.
4. Hobbies. We all have our hobbies. Those things we do for fun, but, in some cases, maybe they are considered vices. After all, we are what we spend our money on and put our time into. Let’s say that I collect vintage John Deere tractors (which I don’t, but let’s pretend), and I put a lot of money into restoring one of them. Each dollar that goes into that won’t directly benefit my [immediate] family. Also, I have be to cautious that I don’t take too much time away from my wife and children either. Don’t get me wrong, it is very important to have hobbies as an outlet, but make sure that it is in perspective and a fair ratio that will benefit those around you.
Above I have listed out what my priorities are for this lifetime. I know what works for me and my family. I’m sure that you will find out what works for you also. It is important to know what your core objectives are and what your goals are. In my opinion, one of the first building blocks is understanding your priorities.
If you are struggling with your identity, where you’re going, or maybe hitting your mid-life crisis, then maybe try this exercise. Jot down your core value priorities sort of how I’ve listed mine above. Then under each category write out each person, place, or thing that fits in that category. Upon completion you will realize the order of what you want your priorities to be.
Questions, comments, concerns, you know the drill…
